This month's Praise is:
With the holiday's here I thought you might like:
Casting Crown's "Peace of Earth"
You'll also get some very yummy
"Praise and Coffee" label coffee!!
PLUS, our good friends at Bayview Cards are giving you a beautifully handmade box of cards!
TO ENTER DRAWING:
~> Post a comment to THIS post and if you are married, tell us a way that you can be your husband's biggest cheerleader. (Not required, but would love to hear your input).
~> Please make sure that I have a way to contact you-PLEASE!~> If you have one of my "Praise and Coffee Giveaway" buttons on your blog, let me know and you will be entered twice. Here is a link to all my buttons: Blog Buttons
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And it's also Tuesday, soooo time for another Two Shall Become One ~ marriage post.
I am re-posting one that received a lot of response, I hope you enjoy it.
Be Their Biggest Cheerleader!!
Ok ladies, I have a question for you.
Who would you say is your husband's biggest fan?
Who is it that gives him the most kudos?
Who toots his horn the most?
Is it you?
If not, set you hand out in the front of the computer while I knock it with my ruler.
Seriously, we should be their biggest fan!
Men desire respect and will gravitate towards wherever they get it.
In fact we are asked to... encouraged to...NO, we are commanded by God to respect our husbands.
Eph 5:33
...and the wife must respect her husband.
NIV
Yes, I know what the first part of that verse says (husbands love your wives) ...but you're not a husband, you are a wife, and this one's for the girls.
Let me say it again.
He will gravitate towards whoever will respect him.
Human beings are drawn to praise and admiration.
Here is a quote from Marriage Builders:
Admiration is one of the easiest needs to meet. Just a word of appreciation,
and presto, you've made someone's day. On the other hand, it's also easy to be
critical. A trivial word of rebuke can set some people on their heels, ruining
their day and withdrawing love units at an alarming rate.
Think about your response when your husband comes home, are you showing him that you respect and admire him by the things that you say and do?
I know that I can struggle with my words.
I have to ask myself, am I building up or tearing down?
We should be a team. We are partners.
Why would I want to tear down my own team mate?
He should never wonder if I'm on his side,
I should make that very clear by my words and actions.
I want him to know that he can count on me to have his back.
Which brings me to another point...
When you are with others, do you speak highly of him or have you ever made fun of him?
I have seen some couples tear one another down right in a group of people and I know there have been times in the past when I was guilty of this too.
It is destructive to a marriage to tear one another down, and it is devastating to your spouse when you do it in front of others.
EVEN IF...you can make them the brunt of the best joke!
Please don't embarrass your husband, it will not only deflate them, but could cause a huge wedge to start forming between you.
Be their biggest fan, be their biggest cheerleader (in a non-annoying, non-clapping kind of respectful way).
That's YOUR place in his life, don't let anyone else take it.
Since I like to leave you with a nugget to think about, I'm going to say:
Be their cheerleader!
I hope this (possibly irritating) word picture makes us think before we speak!
I'm praying for our marriages,
Sue
Edited to add:
Winner is "Goosegirl" at http://www.goosegirlsews.blogspot.com/
52 comments:
Before my Mother-in-law passed away, I would have to say she was his biggest cheerleader and I was the second biggest.
What a delight to read your blog. I have been married to Bill for forty years this coming May. Our marriage has endured a lot, including the loss of a child. He's always been my hero. Here is a poem I wrote about him last week.
Emergency
Every day there was an emergency.
He was a firefighter some thirty years
first response, he witnessed life and death
people in need and on the edge.
He put out fires of one kind or another
every day on shift, ran from one emergency
to another extricating a man from
his crumbled car or performing CPR
on a 10 year old whose last wish was to go to Disney World.
It’s no wonder now that he’s retired
he’s still putting out fires in one way
or another. He feels he’s wasting his time
when life is going along smoothly
no emergencies, no calls to duty. His
eyes light up and he’s passionate
when there’s a problem to solve or
people who need his help. Once
a firefighter, always my hero.
Thank you for the reminder. We love to joke with each other all the time. its just what we "DO" Maybe we should reign it in just a bit.
Every interview I'm cheering him on and when he doesn't get the phone call I'm there with a positive word.
Thank you.
I'm my husband's support or cheerleader when he wants to do big projects, like restore a Mustang, or play in several basketball tournaments!! I still want him to have hobbies. Great give away. I love Casting Crowns!!
Thank you for the reminder to always lift up our husbands. Satan has been trying to destroy the union God created since the beginning. Destroy the home and the rest is easy.
I am not always my husband's biggest fan (please don't smack me to hard with that ruler)but not because of problems, but because some others seem to be cheering louder. I guess I need to dust of my megaphone.
Again, thanks for the reminder to be supportive rather than to tear down.
Blessings,
Rose
I have a button...and I definately can work on being my husbands biggest chearleader!
Judy...I LOVE the poem! (I was a student fire fighter when I was younger)
I love to delight my husband with words of encouragement written in a special book for him to read before he turns out the lights at night.
Not only does this cheer him on, it causes me to stop and reflect on all of his good qualities, the man God is creating in Him and realize how blessed I am to be chosen to be united with him.
I used to be much better at this . . . I'll have to get back to doing this more often. I thank him all of the time for working so hard and allowing me to stay home and raise our children. Thanks for the reminder.
Enter me please! laurene_ammend@yahoo.com
I have failed in being a good cheerleader for my husband lately. But what I can do...is to encourage him every day and let him know how proud I am of him. I can also encourage the children to let their Papa know how much he means to them.
Oh...and I have your button on my blog. :-)
Wow, it's been a while since I've dropped by and when I do it's to read one that God surely had in mind for me today. Here and I thought your giveaway was the prize today. Thank you for having the courage to encourage us as wives so we can remember to do the same for our husbands.
~Debby/MI
YAY!! I work hard to be my hubby's biggest cheerleader. And he is mine. I just wish we had more time with just each other.
Thank you for entering me in the giveaway.
Also, I have your blog button on my blog.
Have a beautiful day.
Sivje
Being my hubby's biggest cheerleader is oh so important! He is currently out of full-time work....just working hard at two part-time jobs right now. He needs "cheering" even more so right now!! I tell him all the time that I believe in him and am praying for him. I enjoy telling him the little things he does that make him so great...reading to our kids, helping them with homework...
This was a great post to read ... although I 'think' I am my husband's biggest cheerleader ... I am probably also his biggest critic at times ... so today's prayer is to help me pause each and every time I say something to or about my husband and really ask: is this going to bless the man that works so hard for our family!?!?!? ;)
This was a great reminder today, thanks Sue.
Thank you for another heartwarming reminder!! My hubby and I have known each other since 6th grade and have been married for almost 28 yrs He truly is my best friend. But even after this many years we still need to remind one another of areas we can work on so, Thank you!!
Also want to say thanks again for my gift. It came yesterday. We have already listened to the CD and it is wonderful.The card pack has great variety and pretty too and I can't wait to try the coffee. You blessed my day Thank you so much!!
I needed this post, I need to get much better at this for my husband. Could I possibly use this as a guest post for my blog at Tablet Of My Heart? It's a great post! Thanks. Please also enter me in the cost.
Yes, I have your button!
I try really hard to be my husband's cheerleader. Although, I've had to figure out exactly how to do that! Someone told me to figure out his love language...which from all indication, is when he sees how hard I work (on meals, keeping up the house, my job, homework with kids etc.) then he is pleased! Gee whiz, I wish it was just through his stomach!
I adore Casting Crowns and have yet to hear this album! How exciting! Thanks for the giveaway!
Happy December!
I was just talking about this with my girlfriend (over coffee, of course). We were both reflecting how each of us are guilty of instigating and on the receiving end of what I call "pick-a-doodle-doo" in social groups. We don't like it when it happens to us, so why would we do it to our spouses?
Anyway, when I make my hubby's lunch in the morning, I add a quick note of encouragement depending our current circumstances. This mornings was "everything happens at the right time". Not too hard to do but hopefully when he sees that he thinks about how much I care for him each day.
I have been married 20 years and I'm definitely a big cheerleader for my husband. I tell everyone about his business and when I'm handing out goodie bags at my vendor fairs I give his out as well as mine. Thanks for the giveaway!
Your post really spoke to me...I have been married for 32 years and I fear that my cheer-leading uniform has not been used as often the last few years as it should have been...thanks for the truths that bring conviction....
I have been married to my rock of a husband for 25 years. Seems like 5 in some ways. In other ways I am grateful for "old love." I like to brag on my man in front of other people. Like the time he called me when I was at the grocery store and told me not to bring a single bag into the house, he would do it all for me. :D
I am definitely my husband's biggest cheerleader. : )
We both agreed before we were married, no degrading (or otherwise bad) spouse jokes, etc. I find those tacky and rude!
I have your button here:
http://cremerfamily.blogspot.com/
God bless,
slcremer at gmail dot com
He is my biggest cheerleader and I am his...great post Sue...and I would love love love this months giveaway...coffee, Casting Crowns and a new box of those wonder cards...I am almost out....blessings
I do have your button on my blog too
I try to support my husband as much as I can, and it varies each day, depending on what is appropriate at the time.
Maybe he just had a job interview and needs encouragement, or maybe he just needs me to ask how his day was.
When I tell him how proud I am of some project he's done in the house, or of the job he does at work, this seems to really make him feel good.
He still likes to be told he looks handsome, just like I enjoy being told I'm cute. :)
His dad passed away 10 days ago. My role right now is supporting him in whatever way he needs.
Please enter me in your drawing. I would love to win! Thanks
Sue,
One of the ways I can be my husband's cheerleader is to encourage him especially when he has had a hard day.
Please enter me twice ( your Praise and Coffee button is on my blog)You already have my email address.
Miriam
My husband was in the Navy for 10 years and I was his biggest supporter and now he is still protecting our state! I am the biggest cheerleader!
Carla
cpullum(at)yahoo(dot0com
My husband delights in pleasing me so I try to remember to thank him for each thing he does, like going to work, getting the Christmas decorations out of the attic,loving me. Thank you for the reminder.
Jeannie
jsschlitt@sbcglobal.net
Hi Sue, like your new blog look.
I am my husband's biggest cheerleader! And he would say so, too. I am daily telling my children (6-16) how special their daddy is him how much I appreciate him. And I am daily thanking him for all his hard work and love for us. (Back when all my kids were little, I wasn't a great wife - I spent WAY too much energy being "mommy" and not enough being "wife". Thankfully, the Lord convicted me! and helped me to change!)
Gary's happy wife, lisa :)
www.osothankful.blogspot.com
www.ourwayswithourkids.blogpost.com
Yay! Another CD! I tried tofind it here in my little town after I didn't win last month, but no one had it. :( Maybe I can win it this month? :) Seriously, thanks again for your generosity!
I am my husbands biggest cheerleader, definately. I try to never say anything negative about him to others & also try to say a tiny little niceity without sounding cheesy when we are in a group. People often comment on how obvious my love for him is. :) We're not perfect by any means but life is tough.....I want to be his "safe place". :)
~Sydney
Oh...And I have a button too!
My husband & I are both the type who doesn't like to be the center of attention, so being a good "cheerleader" for him means letting him know how much I appreciate him but not "shouting it from the housetops" and making a fuss. Just a quiet hug and "thank you" puts a smile on his face.
Thanks for another great giveaway!
I am definitely my hubby's biggest cheerleader. Cheerleaders don't boo when the team makes a mistake so why should we. Instead, I praise the effort and/or intentions even if the results are not good. His heart is more important to me than his ability. By honoring my husband, our children do the same and Daddy is tops for them.
What a great reminder. I am my husband's biggest fan...hugs and laughter together, and those knowing looks over shared stories woven in our 16 years together. Life is good! Thanks for the encouragement you give through this blog...what a blessing
Thanks, I have been thinking about this lately too. I should be the one that treats my husband the best, better than anyone else does...Have a ways to go, but asking God to help me be this for him. I think one way I am my husband's cheerleader is trying to encourage him with notes and verbal admiration. Coming to my first Praise and Coffee night on Thursday, excited to check it out.:)
Please enter me! Love Casting Crowns!
I try to remember his ways are just as good as mine...maybe even better! :) You'll never know if you do not give in! :)
achelona@lycos.com
Hi Sue!
Thanks so much for visiting today. It's great to hear from you. *grin*
Oh, I would love to be entered in this drawing. Casting Crowns is one of my favorites.
I'm trying to remember to tell Brian "Thank you" more often - to cheer him on by letting him know how much I appreciate what he does for our family!
hi sue this is amy bender I would say the way I an Randys Biggest cheerleader by praying and thanking God for how hard he works for our family in front of him
One of the ways I show Bill I'm his biggest cheerleader is when I am quiet and just listen to his heart without interjecting my thoughts and likes or dislikes! This is so important to him because he feels I believe in him when I listen to what he has to say.
Great question, Sue!
Oh, and of course I have your button on my blog! We compliment each other well. :o)
It indeed is a struggle at times to be my husband's biggest cheerleader when I've let the day's activities run me into the ground exhausted... BUT, I always make sure the kids and I wait for him at the dinner table before meal starts. It's a small way for me to say , "I love you; we love you" and "We're not complete without you with us."
I am my husbands biggest cheerleader. I may not always agree with what he says or does, but I always support him.
I have both your buttons on my blog.
I love the quote from Marriage Builders!
readingatthebeach at gmail dot com
Every day there was an emergency
Work From Home india .
Happy Holidays! When my mother-in-law hypes up my husband's younger brother, I have to remind her how wonder her older son is, also!
Thanks, Cindi
jchoppes[at]hotmail[dot]com
I have found over the years that constantly reminding him how talented he is sees to go a long way with building up his ego. God has blessed him with the gifts of photography and computer knowledge in building them and repairing them. I'm amazed with both of these gifts as I have neither and just reminding him of how great he is at using his gifts is huge in being a good cheerleader on his behalf!
I do struggle with this...since hubs tends to have an inflated ego anyway *ahem* I always felt like I was feeding it. I have learned, however, that unsolicited comments are the way to go with him. He beams, but doesn't puff up...does any of this make sense??? lol.
As always, I DO have one of your buttons on my blog!
Hugs and blessings to you, Sue!
"Work. That's your favorite. Make that your favorite."
:-) We just watched that last night!
Cheerleading? I was great in high school. Now in throes of busyness and life, it's hit and miss. Working on it though.
It's easy to be a cheerleader in the good times - it's when the chips are down or the ball is continually being dropped that I have to remember to keep on cheering! Thank for you for the reminder :-)!
Hi Sue,
I often text Bob on his phone and tell him how much he means to me.
Work is very stressful for me and often I will get a text from him and it just makes my whole day. I make sure I tell him often how much he means to me and when he makes my day - I let him know.
thanks,
laura
Congratulations, Goosegirl!
Hope you have a blessed Christmas,
Miriam
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