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Tuesday, October 7, 2008

Two shall become One ~ Super-Mom!


Would the woman who has it all together....(and still remembers how to use it) please stand up.

How many of us think that everyone else has it going on?
In theory we know that no one does, but that does not stop our insecurities from believing that no one else struggles like we do.

She is so spiritual...
She prays so much, I'll never be like her...
She doesn't yell at her kids...
She doesn't hate her hair sometimes and think she's ugly...
Her husband is always so nice to her...
She is always so sweet to him...
She teaches and leads, she's such a Godly woman...
I'll bet she never blows her top like I do...
She's Super Wife & Mom!


None of us "has it all together." We are all workin' the thing out.

This week I want to encourage you not to compare yourself to other wives and moms.
It is dangerous for 2 reasons.
2 Cor 10:12

We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.

1. It can make us feel "less than" those around us. It can bring up insecurities that we need not battle. The verse is clear, don't compare yourself with others.
You have to be who God called you to be and not who someone else is.

2. It can make us feel really good about ourselves because we think that we are doing a better job than they are.
Can you say-pride?
Dangerous ground when we start elevating ourselves.

Both of these things, God calls un-wise.

How do any of us know what goes on behind closed doors?

I don't know the tears that a mom may shed about a child she is struggling with when I see them out in public and the child is acting up.

If her house is cleaner than mine, maybe she has spent less time blogging :P...or maybe she has a struggle with perfection and she has no peace until everything is perfect (and even then doesn't have peace). Whatever the reason, it is no concern of ours.

If you want to know where you stand, start by searching your heart.
What are your priorities and WHY?

Check out this verse, it's not just for men.

Psalms 112:1-9
Praise the LORD.
Blessed is the man who fears the LORD,
who finds great delight in his commands.
2 His children will be mighty in the land;
the generation of the upright will be blessed.
3 Wealth and riches are in his house,
and his righteousness endures forever.
4 Even in darkness light dawns for the upright,
for the gracious and compassionate and righteous man.
5 Good will come to him who is generous and lends freely,
who conducts his affairs with justice.
6 Surely he will never be shaken;
a righteous man will be remembered forever.
7 He will have no fear of bad news;
his heart is steadfast, trusting in the LORD.
8 His heart is secure, he will have no fear;
in the end he will look in triumph on his foes.
9 He has scattered abroad his gifts to the poor

There is something for us to "compare" to.
It is far more important for us to fear the Lord and find great delight in His commands than to meet up to the standards of this world.

God loves you and has a purpose for your life, don't try to fulfill someone elses purpose. Don't compare, instead walk in wisdom and love. Ask the Lord what He wants of you and look to His Word for direction.

PS: Don't forget to enter this month's contest from October 1st!

I'm praying for our marriages,


Joan said...

Thanks for the post.
It's easy to play the 'compare' game. Measuring ourselves to the world we can get unbalanced. To feel better about not measuring up to 'Miss Perfect' we use pride to build us up because at least I'm better than 'that poor soul.' Measuring ourselves to God's standard keeps us humble but it also reminds me that I am a Child of the King. It's neat how God keeps us balance when our eyes are on HIM!

God Bless

concerned parent said...

Wow, I think you can read my mind most days. This was very good for me to hear right now.

Monkey Giggles said...

Sue, Thank you for this. I agree with Joan. It can be so easy to fall into the "compare" trap".

Anonymous said...

Y'know this strikes a nerve in me ~ not an anger thing ~ more sadness than anything else. For me the only "comparison" I've had to overcome (still working on it) is that from my husband. It's very disheartening to have had and sometimes still hear and see the disappointment in your husband's eyes that you're not more or better or super.

Anonymous said...

Wow, great post! It reminds me of one of my favorite sayings....

"Be yourself...everyone else is already taken!"

Have a blessed day!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this post! These are areas of comparisons in my life. I must keep my eyes on Jesus!
Sue, please visit my blog, I have a question for you. Another area in my life that I need to make a decison on.
Miriam :)

Dionna said...

Sue -
I've blogged about my winnings. :) Come on over and see!
Thanks again so much for the gift package.

A Stone Gatherer said...

So true! I often find myself doing the very things you mentioned, on both ends! I need only to please my Savior and stop looking around at others! Thanks for the reminder!

Just Mom said...


How did you know I needed to read this today?

Anonymous said...

I struggle with this constant comparison and I really appreciate what you wrote - please know your blog means a lot to this "lurker"!

Heather said...

I know I don't have it all together but wish that I did! Thanks for the post, it is what I needed today!

Anonymous said...

Your post reminds me of a cute saying I once heard about a young child who was told to stand up in church. He/she replied "I may be standing up on the outside but I'm sitting down on the inside". I guess I got a little sidetracked. I've done been there at time or two and I've beaten myself up over not being able to be Super Mom and I wonder, what's up with that?

Kristen said...

How true!!! I think it is so funny because I used the exact same picture on my blog (I believe earlier in the year) for a Supermom writeup as well! ;) God is so good and we work so hard to do things just so and the reality is that if we just lean on him, we will be immensely successful!!

Julie said... can we compare ourselves to others? There's only one us.... It's amazing isn't it???

I wrote about it on the devo I wrote for the Heart of the Matter Online blog a few weeks back (and on my blog). It was titled "His Unique Shadow". It all came from my study one day with the verse "in our image, let us create..." I was blown away to find that the word image meant shadow. Then God began to speak to me about our shadows.... no two shadows alike.

I love discovering that I don't have to compare myself or be like any other. I spent way too many years in that mode. It was bondage...

Thanks for sharing your heart...AND for the invite to be Facebook friends. I loved seeing pictures of you and your family.

Have a blessed weekend.

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