Hi Girls!
I want to know a few things and I think you are just the ones to ask.
I'm going to do a little survey and would love your input. Feel free to do it anonymously in the comments if you like.
Copy and paste the questions right into the comment box and then fill in your answers. Answer all or some of them. Feel free to elaborate on any of the questions too.
Random questions:
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
7. Do you work outside the home?
8. Who does the chores in the home?
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
16. Anything else you want to add....
Thanks so much!
Much love and I'm praying for our marriages!!!
40 comments:
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
8.5
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
YES!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Sometimes... I am a SAHM and it sometimes I am jealous that he has "another place(s) to go" and is not here towing the line w/ me.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
yes
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
more (alone) time together
deeper understanding of one another
better communication
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
almost every night; we have dinner as a family.
7. Do you work outside the home?
no
8. Who does the chores in the home?
mostly me... i consider it in "my job descripton". ;-)
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Snuggle on the couch and watch movies.
OR
Lay in bed after the kids are asleep and talk about what's on our minds/in our hearts.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
no, and definitely not!
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
no. but we are registered for one in February!
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes, and yes.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
n/a
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
I think you're doing a great job. Very inspiring!
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
You mean like the fact that the first year (year and a half) of our marriage was taken right out of Shakespeare's The Taming of the Shrew? Nah... Nothing like that. ;-)
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great) 7
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? yes it is
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
no, I do not have any reason to resent him
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
yes, I like the majority of them. There are a few from college that he speaks to every know and then that I don't care much for
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
I would like to change the time that we spend quality time together such as talking and praying together
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
every night at the dinner table
7. Do you work outside the home?
yes, I am a teacher
8. Who does the chores in the home?
I do the laundry and dishes and he does the sweeping and all the outside chores
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
work out, travel, watch movies, walk the dogs
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
yes, we are trying to have a baby so the bedroom life has been full force for the past several months
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
yes, we had to attend one as part of our pre-marital counseling but I would love to go to one know that we are married
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
yes we both are
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
praying together, quality time
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
no
16. Anything else you want to add....
Hey Sue!! That "Chris Reeder" comment belongs to ME!! Hubby was logged in on my PC last night doing some work. Forgot to sign him out this AM! He he!! I bet you didn't expect a response from an actual HUSBAND, did ya?!?! ;-)
So sorry about that!
That's funny Susanne!!! I did wonder??
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
8 or 9 - need a li'l more time fro romance ...
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
You Betcha!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
No, not resent, just widh I had as much adult time as he does ... Elmo and the Backyardigans get a little old by the end of the day!
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Most of 'em, there are a few who are a bit annoying :)
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Romance, romance and, ummm, ROMANCE
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
about 5 nights a week, depending on the church sched.
7. Do you work outside the home?
No
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Mostly me, but Hubbs is ultra helpful in this department
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
wink wink!! Well, that and just sit and chat and cuddle
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I am very happy - and I think he is happy too - so happy that I wish there were more of it!!!
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
Unfortunately, no ... would love to though!
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
yep and yep!
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Finding romance in the ordinary ... getting past all of the kid stuff and finding time for a little love (not just sex, but romance!!)
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
We have an interesting story I have been told
16. Anything else you want to add....
Love Two Shall Become One Tues. - thanks for doing it!
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
9
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? Definitely!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why? I don't know if I would call it resentment. But there are things that he has done in the past that I recall from time to time and I withdraw a bit. Maybe that is resentment.
4. Do you like your husband's friends? We have mutual friends -- he doesn't have many friends that aren't brothers or cousins. In that case, yes, I like them.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing! Pray together, work on some trust issues stemming from past mistakes.
6. How often do you eat dinner together? Every night.
7. Do you work outside the home? No.
8. Who does the chores in the home? We share the load.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband? Go to dinner without the kids, travel without the kids...
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it? Ummm...I'm happy. I hope he's happy. He seems happy.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together? Yes.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Yes. Are you? Yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith? n/a
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays??? don't know.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays? No
16. Anything else you want to add.... No
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
Well, I think there is always room for growth and nothing is perfect, so I would say 8 to 8.5
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
ABSOLUTLEY
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Fortunately no, but I do remember a time when he had lost his job and was looking (took 6 months to find one) that the enemy was really working on me. It was tough, but we made it through.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Yes
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
If I had to average it out 6 out of 7 days a week.
7. Do you work outside the home?
Yes (and we work together)
8. Who does the chores in the home?
We both do, but as in most households (I am guessing) I do the majority of the housework. He does help - laundry etc. Oh, and he always runs the sweeper. I told him once how much better at running the vacuum he was than me... well it stuck. He takes so much pride in the designs he makes on the carpets w/ the vacuum sweeper! :)
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
We do so much together. We work, we garden, we work on the yard. We work out together several days a week. But I love it when we just hang out on the back deck or in front of the fireplace in the living room and just talk.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I would say he (as most men) always wants more - ha ha. I am happy w/ where it's at. For as long as we have been married, and the trials w/ infertility we still have a very active bedroom life.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No, but would love to
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes... both of us
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
N/A
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Conflict resolution :)
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
I will have to take some time to write this one out and can email it to you. But we struggled w/ infertility for years. I have seen those issues tear a marriage a part, but ours only got stronger.
16. Anything else you want to add....
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
A 7...there are some issues that need working on.
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Definitely
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Trying not to hold on to unforgiveness but yes I do. He got involved in an online video game for almost TWO years and basically spent all his waking hours (not at work) playing this game. I felt like a single parent and very alone (had a baby in the midst of all this too). He quit it a few months ago which is wonderful but I have a major sleep deficit and have become quite worn out trying to do everything concerning home and child rearing. It is getting better and I need to focus on the positive.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Yes, he is quite introverted and doesn't have many that he sees. But I do like the few he has :)
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
For me to be less cranky (lol!) and for him to be less selfish. We need to talk TO each other not AT each other more.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
We eat as a family every day - the exception is when he travels for his job
7. Do you work outside the home?
No, I run a business (a private home daycare) Monday thru Saturday
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Mostly me, but he is improving. He does most of the outdoor stuff and is even helping out doing after supper clean up sometimes (yay!)
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Watch movies together, go out for dinner alone (although that rarely happens hehe)
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
Not great. I am very tired - youngest is 15 mths and only just started sleeping thru the night. He sleeps in our room as he doesn't have his own bedroom at this time. Not exactly conducive to the environment we need. Neither of us are satisfied in this area at present based on frequency :)
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
Not yet! BUT we are going to a focus on the family simulcast together in February.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes we both are.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Dealing with depression in marriage (we both are predisposed yikes!)
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
I am believing that I will. God is working on our marriage as we speak!
16. Anything else you want to add....
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
9.5
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Absolutely.
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
watching too much football, it is getting better though.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
yes, they are always interesting people
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Really wish we could go on more romantic get-aways, but hour dates at coffee shop or movie night will have to due for this time in life.
6. How often do you eat dinner together? 5 nights a week
7. Do you work outside the home?
no, have tried but couldn't manage it.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
both and children help some
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Sit at coffee shop and talk
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
husbands' happy, any changes on my part need to come from me
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
definitely
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you? both
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
In 25 years of marriage I have found that it takes two people who seek God to improve themselves to make a marriage better. We each need to grow all the time. The Lord knows best what we need to work on when.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
From past abuse we struggled with intimacy for 24 years, we are now breaking out of this and it makes a great difference in our marriage.
Also have powerful testimony on leave and cleave.
16. Anything else you want to add....
Marriage is beautiful but it takes work. Just like you can't set up plants in a garden and never tend to them. If you came back 10 years later, it would be overgrown with weeds, horrible looking and hard to find the original plants. Marriage takes tender care and frequently weeding, pruning, moving, adding new color, watering, fertilizing....it isn't instant.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10?
9.5
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
yes
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
no - not now. Earlier in our marriage I did - but it stemmed from my own selfishness and self-focus.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
yes
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage?
More time with just the two of us. We're in a very busy and filled stage of life for the next months and we're mentally and physically exhausted by the time we go to bed.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
every night - unless one of us is out of town
7. Do you work outside the home?
full time volunteer
8. Who does the chores in the home?
(I know I'm so blessed!) My husband does our laundry (and I've had to release it and let him do it his way!) And, when he's around, and I'm doing any kind of housework, he jumps in and helps me.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
talk and relax and watch movies at home together
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
yes - One thing that has made that a good experience for me is that before the "bedroom life" starts, I pray and ask the Lord to help me bless my husband, and to thrill to his touch, and ask that the Lord be glorified in that area of our lives. He has been faithful to answer those prayers.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
actually... no. But we've taken classes together and done studies and read books on the subject together.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
yes and yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
I'm being blessed by every one of them - so I'll just be grateful for whatever God puts on your heart.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Don't know if you can use it - but God has done a wonderful transformation in both my husband and me and our marriage as I have learned to pray for him in specific ways.
16. Anything else you want to add....
Thank you for the investment you are making in our lives by encouraging us in our marriages.
:-)
Jennifer
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
3
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Used to be, resigning more to not much I can do ~ not a priority on his end
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Sure. He has never given me much thought, encouragement, and does not listen to a word I say ~ He has always tuned me out so I no longer talk to him.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
He doesn't have any ~ really.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
A same page/partnership ~ in this thing together ~ I would like to be heard and remembered. I would like for us to be for eachother what we need.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Every night. Pretty much. There are those exceptions.
7. Do you work outside the home?
No. I run his business from home.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Me mostly. He'll load and run the dishwasher and occassionally will help with vaaccumming, sweeping, bathrooms when company might be coming over. Not that this happens all too often ~ the company.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
well, we used to go on a "Sunday drive" to new neighborhoods and check out the homes being built and we'd discuss the styles and workmanship. I really enjoyed that, but it's been at least 10 years since we've done that.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
My husband does not request bedroom time. He could care less. It has affected me over the years. I do ask for bedroom time and sometimes and sometimes not. I do not recommend this, but I did put my husband to a test a few years back. I waited for him to come to me, well I waited for almost a year and I caved.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
I went so far as to buy tickets and he came up with a excuse why we couldn't go.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
We are both Christians, in fact he brought me to the Lord before we were married.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
Well, although, we are both Christians, I would like to respond anyway ~ my husband always used to get very upset with me when I would get involved with functions at church. I never really understood except that I was getting to close for his comfort level. He's a very arm's length kind of guy.
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Actually, what about a guy's perspective from time to time? Would you're husband be willing to write an article from his prespective? Just a thought.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
I'm not sure ~ we've been though so much ~ as long as it has been ~ small steps have occurred ~ very small, but it's still hope.
16. Anything else you want to add....
I don't know what Lord has planned for us, but I do know he has something planned.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great) 5. I just want to add that in everyway possible I believe, my husband and I are the closest as friends we can be (considering our being unequeally yoked... the fellowship can only go so deep). My desire is to build on what we do have and trust the Lord for the spiritual part.
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? yes!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
No, but I get discouraged with my past choices which have influenced him greatly, so that the things I see in him that I don't like I know are the result of my own ways. I resent my own choices!
4. Do you like your husband's friends? most of them, yes.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
That I would not be jaded or sarcastic in response to present or past hurts, but tender and gentle and quiet in confidence of God's goodness and soveriegnty.
That my husband would want to sit down with the t.v. off at the dinner table and eat together as a family.
6. How often do you eat dinner together? ha! I didn't even look ahead when i answered the last question i promise! :) We never do. It's one of my greatest griefs. I set the table and call the kids to the table at dinner time (all other meals my husband is gone and I sit with the kids)but my husband always takes his meal and goes to the t.v. I shouldn't say always. On holidays he comes to the table, and I always say, "Yeah! I won the lottery! My family is eating dinner together!" with a smile when that happens. My biggest effort right now is in praying out this complaint to the Lord and not pouting about it at mealtime when the t.v. seems to be the center of attention.
7. Do you work outside the home? not right now, but i will be going back to work in the next month... just part time.
8. Who does the chores in the home? Each of us, including my 4 and 5 year old boys. My husband is also an awesome help in household things and actually takes the initiative... I never have to post a honey do list or anything like that.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband? Watch a baseball game or go for a hike together!
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it? I'm not happy with where its at, but I no alot of that is my own doing once again. I think my husband would also say he's not happy with where its at either although he never complains. More often I think would be the request of both of us, and on my part, more innocence.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together? no
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you? My husband is not. I am.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith? He is supportive... he thinks it's a good, healthy belief system. But not THE way.
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays??? I'm not sure. I think you cover it well.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays? My husband and I reunited after 8 months of seperation. I think our testimony in a nut shell is: the king's heart is in the Lord's hands and like rivers of water He turns it wherever He wills (Proverbs 21:1)
16. Anything else you want to add.... Thanks for asking. I'll have to come back later and read what others wrote
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
9.5
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Absolutely. It´s like our walk with Christ. We should never stop learning and striving to make it better.
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
I would not call it resentment. There are times when I get rather house burned and wish I could wander around more, but even then I would want to wander around with him.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
For the most part. A few are quite annoying.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
More time to do together the things we enjoy....hiking, traveling, gardening....
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Everyday unless he is traveling or I am.
7. Do you work outside the home?
We are missionaries. He pastors and disciples. I direct the music, have a ladies ministry, and teach Bible classes. Some of this is done from home...some outside the home.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
We do. If the floor needs mopping and I am busy, he does it. We share the cleaning, laundering, cooking, everything.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Traveling to new places.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
GREAT!
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes, we both are.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
16. Anything else you want to add....
Very interesting survey.
Random questions:
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10?
6, somedays its closer to a 9, but overall
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
YES
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Sometimes, he is in school full time and I "bring home the bacon" and I get really frustrated and resentful when he spends $ with no concern for our situation
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
For the most part, no--the majority of them party late and smoke marijuana, encouraging my husband to do the same
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage?
Our communication, his habits-smoking, drinking
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
4-5 nights per week
7. Do you work outside the home?
Yes
8. Who does the chores in the home?
We share, but i do majority
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Anything where we laugh together
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
Yes and yes
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No, but have looked into it
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
I am not sure, Yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
Sometimes his comments are mean and hurtful, sometimes they are encouraging
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Addiction
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
16. Anything else you want to add....
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great) 8 I really do have a lot to be grateful for. It's just the rest of life that's been so tough lately. It leaves me with little energy for US. It's been months since we've had a real date. But, it's also been months of us trying to work as a team to pull our family together. We've experienced a lot in the last year. Death (my Dad) ...Unemployment (my husband) ...and Divorce (good friends).
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? It needs to be a higher priority.
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Right now, if I'm honest, I'll say yes. I wish I didn't. When I started working, he's taken more FREE TIME...and I'm just working harder. I wish he could turn off the TV and work on some of our home projects. I'm doing enough with working outside the home, homeschooling our 7 and 5 y.o. boys. We also have a 3 y.o. girl...who is BUSY. And I've had to be extremely creative with our food budget...we almost never eat out of the home or use convenience foods...especially since August (when my husband was out of work for 12 weeks)
4. Do you like your husband's friends? YES. I just wish he would spend more time getting to know them.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing! Time we have away from the kids.
6. How often do you eat dinner together? Not very. I usually eat early (see #7)
7. Do you work outside the home? Yes (In September I had to get a job...I work nights and weekends)
8. Who does the chores in the home? It's beginning to be more balanced...but ME and the kids.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband? Go for walks at the beach. Not just the on-the-sand kind. We love the beach cities from Carlsbad to Laguna to Santa Monica. Enjoy a leisurely lunch.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I need more energy. Given the energy I have after the rest of the day is done...I'm ok with where it's at. He'd like me to have more energy too. Most days I'm just too exhausted.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together? Yes. A Weekend to Remember. In the fall of 2002.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you? Yes & Yes.
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
I really wanted to answer these for you to see where women are at right now. I just wish I had more energy to even think of what I'd like for you to share. I know God will give you the words.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
9
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Absolutely! Always room for improvement!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Nope!
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Mostly. He has one friend that isn't too reliable, but what can you do?!
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Working through stressful situations better. We tend to speak first in those situations, which only creates more problems.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Every night
7. Do you work outside the home?
Not right now, but I do go to school part-time
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Mostly me, but he helps out every now and then
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Prayer and pillow talk just before we go to sleep.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I'd say we're both quite happy with it. :)
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
Sort of...it's complicated.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you? Yes for both of us!
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Does getting called by God to move to Ireland within six months of your marriage count? Or becoming a full-time step-mom to a fifteen year old girl?? If so, then YES!
16. Anything else you want to add....
I enjoy your blog. Thanks for the time and energy you put into it!
Random questions:
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
8
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Absolutely
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
No
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
some
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Our time praying together increased
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
6 nights a week
7. Do you work outside the home?
My office is at home
8. Who does the chores in the home?
I do most of the inside and he does the outside
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Go to the beach and drink coffee while watching the news in bed on saturday morning and chat.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
Pretty good, I think he is. he has a very stressful job and when stress goes up for him he tends to not be very loving or interested(hard to find a way to word that one!)
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
Not a conference but we did "Love & Respect" class and then lead it the second time.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes & Yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
More creative ways to have devotion time together.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
My husband's story that he was asked to share at the annual Prayer Breakfast on National Day of prayer our community has everyone thought was neat, but its just how he came to know the Lord through us dating and the changes that has brought about with his job and our community (he is a leader in our community)
16. Anything else you want to add....
Love your ministry to women and our marraiges.
Blessings,
Margaret
Thanks so much!
Much love and I'm praying for our marriages!!!
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
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2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Hmmm ... you would think that if it was, I would be devoting a good chunk of my time/thoughts to it, right? So although I would say "yes", my actions don't reflect that. :o(
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Only the fact that he can decide to lose 10 pounds and a week later it's done! LOL!
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Yes. Dh doesn't have too many though. He has "buddies" that he might chat with if he happens into them at the store or something, but not close friends in the same way that I do. Does that make sense? Friends don't appear to be important to him.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
**Better communication
**More time spent doing things together
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
We average 5-6 dinners together per week.
7. Do you work outside the home?
Yes, part-time.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Me.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Camp, go out to dinner, play cards.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
Yes, I am happy with where it's at. I'm sure hubby would say he'd like to see a less talk and a lot more action! :o)
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes and yes.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
n/a
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
I think you are doing a great job!!
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Hmmm .... maybe .... ;)
16. Anything else you want to add....
I think you've about covered it!
P.S. Besides following (lurking around) your blog, I also follow you on Twitter. I'm KidzandDogs.
1. 10
2. Oh, yea!
3. Sometimes: when he gets to have a life "outside" the house with adult conversation and feel "useful" and "productive" in terms of working life
4. For the most part...I could do without some of the gross preschool-level body function jokes but yea. LOL
5. That he would quit assuming that because I "seem" to have it together that he doesn't have to offer any help. And, that he would realize how "sexy" it is to surprise me by doing dishes, changing a diaper, doing baths and/or bedtime! LOL
6. Six nights a week.
7. No
8. I do the majority; DaHubby has the "guy" ones (LOL): garbage, maintenance, etc.
9. Anything outdoors
10. *snort* I think he's happy but he'd always be happy with more. We've been working on this a lot lately as we prioritize his full time work, his full time school, and me being the kids full time.
11. Once as newlyweds
12. yep; yep
13. NA
14. the "submitting" issue
15. Somewhat - my transformation from a liberal, "independent" only daughter of a single divorced mom into a submitted Pentecostal believer! LOL
16. One thing DaHubby and I agreed on early. Complete transparency and honesty. And, the "3 vote" system. We discuss everything then I get my say/vote and he gets his. But, if it's a tie, he gets an additional vote.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
8-9 not perfect but very happy
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
yes
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
no
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
I'm pretty much his only friend.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Do church activities and misistries together. Entertain at home more. My husband is more of a loner see #4.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
A couple of times a week (kids schedules) We talk almost everyday on the phone and everynight before bed. He loves to talk!
7. Do you work outside the home?
Part time volunteer at church.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Mostly me, but that's the way I want it. He works very long hours and is working on a Master's. I also have 2 teens at home who pitch in.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
We talk alot. We are both political junkies and we discuss politics and current affairs. We talk about our dreams for retirement and what ifs. I love just being together no mater what we are doing. He makes me laugh.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
We are both extremely happy in every way in that department.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
no
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
At times I wonder about Him. I am a Christian.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
He supports everything I do 100%. He just doesn't go with me to church. He's too busy which is just an excuse. I don't pressure him, but I do pray that he will someday.
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
I enjoy your topics very much.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
16. Anything else you want to add....
Keep up God's work!
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
5-7 depending on what day it is!
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
YES YES YES!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
I do have some resentment stored up, which I didn't realize until recently. My husband is a recovering pain pill (opiate) abuser. His addiction has caused our marriage as well as our family much grief, frustration, and turmoil. I have a lot things I need to work through and change because of this. It takes "two" no matter what the circumstances.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
What friends he has... which is hardly any. :(
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
It would be nice if we could go back to how it use to be, the "pre-marriage" days!
More TIME...ALONE and quality time would be a blessing as well.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
At the table.. never.. I know, I know..we're working on it.
7. Do you work outside the home?
I did for the past 10+ years. Recent SAHM
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Mainly me, although the kids have their individual daily chores and my husband does help out too.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
ANYTHING as long as we are alone and together!
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
NO on either account.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
Yes...been to a couple, several years ago.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
We both are Christians.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
NA
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
I am sure there is, but nothing is coming to me right now. Sorry.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
"possibly"
16. Anything else you want to add....
I am SO glad you are doing TSBO-Tuesday! Thank you for your prayers and dedication.
Wow, you guys are awesome! Thank you for your continued input!!
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
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2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Yes, very much so.
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
I did actually resent him for a while until I realized resentment would cause so many other problems and probably cause me to get a divorce.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
I like some of his friends but there are a few who are horrible dad's, husband's and fathers and I just wonder why he would want to be friends with them but it isn't my decision now is it..
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Communication, teamwork, building a friendship.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Almost every night. Probably one or two times a month we don't eat together.
7. Do you work outside the home?
Yes, I do.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Mostly me.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Watch movies, watch football, go to the gym or for a walk.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
Yes and yes except he would probably want it everyday.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No, I wish.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
He got saved when we were dating yet he is kind of stuck in the same place... Yes, I am.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
I think he respects my faith and luckily he is going along with teaching our son.
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
building a friendship... a best friend relationship with your spouse.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Not yet but one day I will :-)
16. Anything else you want to add....
Great questions.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
I would say mine is an 8.
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
DEFINITELY!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Sometimes. I sometimes feel that he just doesn't "get" how it feels to be a SAHM.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Yes.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Hmmmm.....Better communication. More thoughtfulness towards each other. More time alone together.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Every night. Except every other Tuesday, when he has a meeting.
7. Do you work outside the home?
No. But do you count driving kids to lessons? Technically, I'm OUTSIDE the home....LOL!
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Moi, and the children.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Just talk.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I am not totally satisfied with this aspect. I'm pretty happy, but it could be better. I would say my husband is about the same.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
Once, at my church.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes, on both counts.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
NA
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Resentment, Communication.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Not at this time.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great) - 8.5
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? of course!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why? Sometimes. We own our own business (computer service) and he makes much more money than I do at my job. When one of us needs to stay home from work (sick kids, oil man coming, whatever) he always assumes it will be me. It makes me feel as though what I do at work isn't significant to him (even though I got the job initially because HE wanted me to). So sometimes I resent his attitude toward my job, yes.
4. Do you like your husband's friends? Unfortunately, he doesn't have many. He works way too hard between his secular job and church. :( Of the men he DOES hang out with, most I like.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing! I wish we had more "date nights", better communication sometimes
6. How often do you eat dinner together? As a family at least 6 nights a week
7. Do you work outside the home? Yes
8. Who does the chores in the home? We share responsibilities - thankfully, I don't have to do dishes! :)
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband? Laugh... it doesn't matter where we are, we always find something to laugh about.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it? I would say he's satisfied, I could handle a bit more action.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together? No... although we've talked about it.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you? Yes. We both know the Lord. I grew up as a PK (rebelled and then gave my life to Christ completely). He was saved as an adult.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith? N/A
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays??? Specific ways I can respect my man? :)
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays? - Possibly... email me :)
16. Anything else you want to add.... God bless you!
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
on a scale of 1 -10 we are a 12~
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
we are so connected it couldnt be any better than it is
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
never ever
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
absolutley, his friends are my friends
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
i wish he would take the trash out before it overflows, not after.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
every single night
7. Do you work outside the home? no
8. Who does the chores in the home?
both of us he does things he is better at and i do things i'm better at
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
we sit together, no tv, no radio no kids and talk about everything and anything
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
our honeymoon hasnt ended yet! and we have been married 6 years!
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
no need at all
12. Is your husband a Christian? yes Are you? yes
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great) 1
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? Yes
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
He does not love or cherish me, nor does he value my devotion to him!
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
My husband wants everything in our lives to be HIS way...if I start to add something, he cuts my conversation off.....he mostly wants to talk about work....and HIS needs...
6. How often do you eat dinner together? Nightly
7. Do you work outside the home?No
8. Who does the chores in the home?
ME
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Cannot guess
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
He told me the needs there are his---and that 's where it is left. It is only because he needs it--his satisfaction!! He tells me what I like and want (so far from true--I am tired and just say WHATEVER!!
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?Yes, and all he was concerned about is what the Lord wants ME to do. If I get counseling, it is because I have the problem and need "fixed" not him.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Yes Are you? Yes (however, when I questioned him about soe=mething disrespectful to someone last year, he told me I was not saved!!)
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
16. Anything else you want to add....
I have stuck through this for thirty years and seven children. I hav suffered emotional abuse for many years, as I have no where to go, nor any way, and I could not leave my children! I realize that int he next seven years, all will be grown, and then, I will do whatever!!
Of course, we hide it from our children pretty good....and I tell him how to treat daughters if he wants relationship with them!!
I am beyond caring about me....God carries me through, and keeps me going to take care of the children.
My children gave us a surprise anniversary party this last year, and I attended with a man who was angry at me all day and did not speak to me, and then after the party accused me of telling some "man" there about his job situation!! (Mind you all atttendees including our children are Christians!!) Needless to say, I had a hard time being thankful to all attendees, and try to be joyous about something so lacking in joy!
He does provide for us, but often complains about having to work. The children have taken jobs outside the home and I help for a couple of hours a week, just for the extr stuff...they even buy most of their own clothing.
Yes, we are to marry once, and......
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
2
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
yes
3. Do you resent your husband? Yes I do.
Why? Because he has hurt me a lot!
4. Do you like your husband's friends? Some of them.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
-make devotion time together
-see each other more
-be more together on financial stuff
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Not very much right now cause he is on a night shift.
7. Do you work outside the home?
Not right now I am in school.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Me about 99% him 1%
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Talk
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
-I am not happy with it and I would definately say that he is also not happy with it.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
Yes!
12. Is your husband a Christian? Yes he is. Are you? Yes I am.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays??? Sex
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays? Not yet.
16. Anything else you want to add.... Feeling pretty hopeless some days..but I know that God is more than able to make my marriage work.
1. How woudl I rate my marriage?
1 -- I am grateful to still be married..really it's a miracle we are.
2. Is making the marriage better a high priority? Yes most the times it is to me, but I am discouraged often.
3. Do you resent your husband?
why?
My husband is not a Christian, and when I came to the Lord, he really was very very upset and basically turned away from me - rejected me in many ways. I don't resent him, but I am very hurt by his rejection of me as a person/wife.
4. do you like your husband's friends? No -- they fuel him against me because of my faith.
5. what are some of the top things I would change about my marriage?
oooh.....that's a lot to ask and it would take too long to write.....
6. how often do you eat together? Well before I gave my life to the lord every night..... now I am lucky if he comes home once every few weeks for dinner. Very sad. :(
7.do you work outside the home?
No I work in the home -- being a full time homemaker is "work" in my book. :)
8.who does the chores? The kids and I ...my husband used to help out a lot, but not since I came to the Lord. He is very angry about my conversion to Christ.
9. What is your favorite thing to do with my husband? Hmmm...... right now I am lucky to "see" my husband...... he doesn't come till all hours of the night.......
10. How's the bedroom life?
The "what?"....... the bedroom exists when it's to his liking and the rest of the time he ignores me. It's called abuse.:(
11.Marriage conference? No
12. Is husband a christian? NO, I am though.
13. How does he feel about my faith? He hates it. He's angry that I am born again.He makes fun of my love for Jesus. BTW, my husband is involved with a cult, so this is common behaviors for the patriarchal men when their wives leave the cult. I understand that is "why" he is doing what he does.
14. Topics to explore?
How to live with a non christian husband -- how to live in an abusive marriage.. how to glorify God thru the tough times of marriage..... when is enough enough.
Thanks! I love your blog and am encouraged by your writings,
gloria
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
**Most definitely for the most part a 10.**
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? **Just read my blog on attitude, yest always!**
3. Do you resent your husband? **Sometimes when he puts me down because dinner isn't what he wanted to eat, there isn't enough salt in his food, his days are always cold, wet and rainy. Why? **It just makes me sad that I can't make him happy & it hurts my feelings.**
4. Do you like your husband's friends? **Absolutely!**
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
1- More alone time, raising 3 grandchildren 5, 6 & 7 & living in a new area, we don't get much alone time.
2- Less computer time for hubby.
3- More walks on the beach or park.
4- Learning to cook so he would enjoy it, but after 28 years of marriage, I don't think it will happen...his mom was a chef and that is a hard job to follow!
5- My attitude and snappiness
6- A better prayer life
7- A weekly date
8- Having more time with friends with small children.
9- Me to have a full-time job so I can contribute more
10- Seeing my hubby happy again.
6. How often do you eat dinner together? 6 nights a week, once a week the kids and are at church functions while hubby bowls!
7. Do you work outside the home? I am a substitute teacher.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
I do for the most part, but he cooks, does dishes, helps with the kids, gets the kids to school and home on his days off, does laundry, he just doesn't do the BORING things I guess!
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband? Laugh!
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it? For being married 28 years and over the age of 50, girlfriend, the only thing that would make it better is having a bedroom on the beach!
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together? **Yes & we still laugh that I mistakenly entered the men's room not once, but twice that week-end! The door signs were all messed up!
12. Is your husband a Christian? Not practicing. Are you? Yes!
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith? Even being born again, he isn't happy with it, he hates that we moved to Washington and resents the Lord & me for putting us here!
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays??? You do so well, I have no suggestions with the exception people need to be totally committed to their marriage, not just when it feels good!
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays? I do, but that would be up to you.
16. Anything else you want to add....No matter what you are going through today, tomorrow is always a fresh start in Gods eyes!
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great) 9
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? Always
3. Do you resent your husband? No, because he's human and so am I.
4. Do you like your husband's friends? Yes
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Goal setting
6. How often do you eat dinner together? Always
7. Do you work outside the home? Yes, together
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Me - majority of them
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband? Housework, leisure time and just talking
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it? Yes, we're happy with it.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together? No
12. Is your husband a Christian? Yes Are you? Yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays? Renewing our vows after years of caregiving and tough times. It truly does make one stronger. It's also our priviledge to show our teenage son what it means to be married. He surprised us by saying that he'll definitely take his time getting married because it's a lifetime commitment.
16. Anything else you want to add....
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
9
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
yes
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
not at all
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
yes
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
more conversation time
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
every night as a family
7. Do you work outside the home?
no
8. Who does the chores in the home?
my husband does all the outside things (we have horses and often a couple cows) I do the inside stuff, we help each other out if there is a need. I help hay in the summer and he helps in the house if needed.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Just spending time together, praying together. Playing with our grandson.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I think there is always room for improvement, but we've been married 30 years this Sept. It was a lot different 10-20 years ago.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
yes
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes, we both are and have been for many years.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10?
9.5 We are so happy, best friends, but I know there is room to grow.
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Of course.
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
No, I don't.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Yes. He doesn't have friends in this area, so I need to encourage him to call his friends more often.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
I would like to have more fun together. Often we are both stressed out about different things. This has slowly been changing, and I am so happy for it.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Every night, with rare exceptions.
7. Do you work outside the home?
No.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
We split them, mostly. I do as much as I can with my disability and he picks up the slack. I wish I could do more.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
I love to play "old school" video games with him, watch movies, go out on dinner dates, and more mundane things. We love to take showers together.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I'm happy with the quality, as is he. We would both like more, and we are working on that.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
My husband is not a Christian. I am.
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
He is so supportive. I am blessed in that he is supportive of my faith though he has not yet accepted Christ. Of course I pray for his salvation, but I also give prayers of thanksgiving - because he supports me so fully.
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
I think you're doing a great job!
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Not sure what you mean by this.
16. Anything else you want to add....
Nope. Great survey.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
2
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Yes.
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Only when I think about the fact he doesn't want to try and work on the issues in the relationship.
4. Do you like your husband's friends? yes
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
-Communication, more of it
-That he would give as much as he takes.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
-Every night
7. Do you work outside the home?
yes
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Me...
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
anything not involving a computer or tv.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
No I am not happy with it and to be honest I have no idea if he is happy. Because he refuses to talk about it.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes and Yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
We don't see eye to eye on many theological things. Which can be stressful.
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
16. Anything else you want to add.... I love reading your blog!
Hi, Sue!
I posted my answers at my Clay site. Check it out if you have time.
As for your last three numbers...
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays?
How to keep communication sweet,
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays? I'll get back to you.
16. Anything else you want to add.... Your site is one of those I enjoy visiting even after being gone for so long in the bloggosphere.
God bless you and your marriage, sister!
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
About 8 we have learned our strengths and weaknesses and try to trust the other to fill in the gaps.
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
Yes, there is always room for improvement my life and I feel this is something that is forever.
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
I did for the longest time and now I trust God for my safety, it was wrong to put that much pressure on my hubby. But I wish for a more fair parenting style.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Yes they are good guys.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Less time at work and more time to be a family, quality time spent together not TV time.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Everyday we seem to do everything together not sure that it a good or bad thing.
7. Do you work outside the home?
Yes
8. Who does the chores in the home?
I do all it and it is hard when we leave and return at the same time ok maybe a resentment issue.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
It has been so long since we just spent time being us I am not sure but I love long drives when we can talk and dream about the future. Oh I know we hang out in the woods and I love being in nature with him. It seems so peaceful.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I have learned to be open to his needs and wants and this has given me freedom form what I thought a Christian wife should act like; Marriage is the place where sex is ok. When I got that we found we could have fun and it changed us.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Sex, I feel a lot of women think they have to be reserved.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Maybe let me know.
16. Anything else you want to add....
Great post Sue
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? 9
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? Yes.
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Sometimes yes. I feel like he still has some semblance of a life outside the home. Where I am 'new in town' and home with our daughter so my social life is more limited.
4. Do you like your husband's friends? Most of them.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
I would like for us to keep working on communication. To work on expressing love in various ways. I would have us doing more together as a couple.
6. How often do you eat dinner together? Usually every evening
7. Do you work outside the home?
No.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Both of us do various chores. Including cooking!
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Pray together
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
I would say he's happy though I am struggling.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
no
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you? Yes on both counts
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
???
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Maybe
16. Anything else you want to add....nope.
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
8
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
YES!!!
3. Do you resent your husband? Why?
Sometimes . . . he has been home from work for over a year. And, sometimes it doesn't seem like he is doing anything to return to work. Or move forward at all.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Yes.
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
Eat meals at the table.
More intimacy.
Find a home church.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Every night . . . in front of the tv our plates on trays. His request.
7. Do you work outside the home?
No.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
We both have chores. Most of the housework is mine. Though he takes charge of taking out the trash and will help with laundry and dishes...even scour the shower if I'm having a hard day.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Go out. We are home all the time.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
Not happy. Not much happening. Which makes having a baby very difficult. Both of us would like things to be better.
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
No.
12. Is your husband a Christian? Are you?
Yes & Yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Depression. This has been the crux of our troubles. And the reason why my husband is not working. Roughly three months after we were married, me moving to a whole new country, he was diagnosed with clinical depression. And, has not returned to work yet.
I didn't realize depression is so debilitating. I wasn't prepared and struggled myself with being swallowed up by depression. Tough way to start a marriage. Our 2nd anniversary is March 3.
I have leaned heavily on the Lord through this time.@ithout Him, I don't know how we would make it through.
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Let me make it through this...I will be happy to share how God accomplished His work in our lives.
16. Anything else you want to add....
It was good to meet you last November for Praise & Coffee in Plainwell!
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? 8
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you? YES!!
3. Do you resent your husband? No Why?
4. Do you like your husband's friends? Yes, for the most part I have known his friends longer than he has!
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? More equal housework... we both work full-time (granted I am allowed to work from home - but I am working) and I still do 90% of the housework and chores.
6. How often do you eat dinner together? Most of the time
7. Do you work outside the home? yes, but 80% of the time from my home office
8. Who does the chores in the home? See question #5! ME!
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband? Dinner out so we can talk without the kids and TV and number 10 below...
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it? Yes & Yes
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together? no
12. Is your husband a Christian? Yes-although he's not as involved as I would hope at times. Are you? Yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays??? There are so many...
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays? I went from the brink of asking for the D word 2 years ago to being happier in my marriage then ever before... All by making changes within me, and I have been a Christian for as long as i can remember, but there is always room for improvement!
16. Anything else you want to add...
1. How would you rate your marriage on a scale of 1-10? (1 being poor, not much partnership, 10 being that he's your best friend and things are great)
3
2. Is making your marriage better a high priority to you?
yes
3. Do you resent your husband?
YES!
Why?
Because he is still breathing! And uses his breath to tear me down and yell and swear at me.
4. Do you like your husband's friends?
Some of them
5. What are some of the top things you would like to change about your marriage? (Please don't say "my husband") Just teasing!
um? Not sure...guess we would go back in time and not have gotten married at all.
6. How often do you eat dinner together?
Not very often right now since he is on a night shift....but I try to make a point of making lunch for him if I am home to do so.
7. Do you work outside the home?
Not presently....but I just graduated from school and will be looking for something.
8. Who does the chores in the home?
Me...unless I complain that I am doing everything and then he does some for a bit....then repeat.
9. What is your favorite thing to do together with your husband?
Presently???...Um??? I don't like doing anything with him...I just do it cause I have to.
10. How's the bedroom life? Let me be more specific...are you happy with where it's at and would you say your husband is happy with it?
see number 9
11. Have you ever gone to a marriage conference together?
yes.....in our first year of marriage...now we are at year 5
12. Is your husband a Christian?
yes....but he gets mad at me when I bring up God when we are argueing.
Are you?
yes
13. If you are and he is not, how does he feel about your faith?
14. What topics would you like me to explore more on Two shall become One ~ Tuesdays???
Pornography
15. Do you have a marriage testimony that I could highlight on TSBO~ Tuesdays?
Not yet.....but hoping for one.
16. Anything else you want to add....
thanks for being here.
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