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Tuesday, October 27, 2009

For the Brokenhearted Wives


I spent some time this past week talking with a married gal who's heart is broken. She's in a marriage that has been more than a little bit painful (she said I could share this). She married a man that is not a believer. She knew it wasn't the best of circumstances, but she loved him and felt that he loved her deep enough to eventually want her God also. He's a good man, but still a man that does not love the Lord like she does.

This is no time for blame, she's hurting and needs comfort not correction.

If you are hurting in your marriage, I want to encourage you that the Lord sees your tears. He knows the pain of a broken heart and is near to it.

Maybe your spouse has another woman or maybe pornography has gripped his life and it breaks your heart.

The Bible says that God is a jealous God. By that it means that He knows the pain of someones heart embracing the love of another. He understands the depth of your hurt.

No matter why you are hurting, God has the healing and love that you so desperately long for.

I offered this woman the same advice that I do to all women who are hurting and want so badly to have their husband love them, it's found in THIS post.
But I also shared with her how much the Lord loved her and wants her to find her hope and healing in His arms. Sometimes our wounds just need time to heal and they need us to slow down long enough to let the Lord apply His love and healing power to our hearts.

Before we are wives, we are daughters. Daughters of the King of Kings.

You are precious in God's eyes. Failures and all. His love for you extends beyond the expanse of the universe. He created everything we see with YOU in mind. He adores you. He's your biggest fan. He wants to be your hiding place.
Psalms 32:7
You are my hiding place; You will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. NIV

If you are hurting today, friend, go to that hiding place. Get yourself alone with the only One who is able to bring true comfort to your brokenness.

Psalms 34:18
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. NIV

Psalms 147:3
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. NIV

It's very difficult to bind up the wound of someone who won't stop moving. Take some time alone with God, He's just waiting to wrap healing His arms around you.

For more that I've written about my own brokenheart, see THIS post.

I'm praying for our marriages,


Debbie Petras said...

Sue, thank you for words of encouragement. Only the Lord can heal broken hearts and only He can fill our hearts with love. Then we can be vessels to love others, especially our spouses.


Valerie Stills said...

Sue, I have been that woman, unequally yoked, oppressed, abused, and emotionally, spiritually hurt. GOD can heal that marriage and build it (I dare not say restore) to something that honors him. He did mine. My husband is now more than I ever even asked God for when I prayed.

I remember standing in worship one day and God spoke very clearly to me that HE would be my husband when my earthly husband wouldn't. At the time my husband was battling porn addiction and anger problems. Our marriage was over in my eyes and I was begging God to release me from this marriage. God's plan was better than mine, I look at my husband now and I say, "WOW, God you are so awesome!"

Tamatha said...

Great post Sue! Thanks for more encouragements!:o)

Suzanne said...

God renewed my heart when I thought our marriage was over. The Lord humbled me and showed me that marriages are fragile and need to cared for...the love and respect thing is HUGE! But in the end, God knows your heart and your true intentions and if you are open to hearing Him, He can teach you how to thrive in an unequally yoked marriage.

~*Michelle*~ said...

This was so beautiful.....what words of hope!

Our Lord is the Only One who will never forsake us.......ever.


Fitter After 50 said...

It still feels like a huge void and emptiness though (being unequally yoked that is). It's difficult to understand what it's like unless you live it.

For His Grace said...

Thanks a bunch. Maybe I don't sit still very long. It just hurts to have your hubby have someone else and be embarrassed of you. I've been divorced for over a year and still struggle with feelings of inadequacy.

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