tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post1003060711603303328..comments2023-05-17T11:12:09.399-04:00Comments on Praise and Coffee: Divorce Through the Eyes of a ChildPraise and Coffeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18273673325959351521noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-5916122651546698052009-04-25T23:29:00.000-04:002009-04-25T23:29:00.000-04:00This is an amazing story of what children feel dur...This is an amazing story of what children feel during such a sad time. So many couples in the christian marriage ministry we're involved in think their kids are "fine". We know, from personal experience, that that's never the case. Even though, thankfully, our marriage was restored, every now and then the insecurities that our children experienced when we were in crisis mode still creep up on them. <br /><br />AnnaleaMichael and Annaleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03993300672009113100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-34636106361096737332009-04-25T12:09:00.000-04:002009-04-25T12:09:00.000-04:00Lizz-
We have grieved together, prayed togethe...Lizz- <br /> We have grieved together, prayed together, talked into the late hours of the night together- And I'm so thankful we had eachother through this difficult storm! <br /> I know you wish God had a different answer for how He healed our family-but you know as well as I do-you wouldn't be the beautiful, insightful, spirit-filled women you are today without walking thru it all...<br /> I love you just the way you are and am VERY proud of you! The depths of your grief is a reflection of the great depth of e unconditional love you have for your dad and I pray someday his heart will be whole enough to recieve it! <br /> Love, your momKathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01139204529467522186noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-5376513993081776942009-04-23T18:36:00.000-04:002009-04-23T18:36:00.000-04:00Anonymous: I'm glad that your divorce turned out w...Anonymous: I'm glad that your divorce turned out well, really. But you have to realize that in my situation, both my mother and I were happy when my parents were married; neither of us wanted the divorce. Dad was the only who was unhappy. Our situation wasn't bad but he felt his was. I don't know your story so I can't speak for you obviously so this "article" is how I felt with my personality and the mindset that divorce was the last and most undesirable option.<br /><br />(And thank you, everyone, for your comments; I appreciate the feedback :))Lizznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-13531239042782338052009-04-23T13:48:00.000-04:002009-04-23T13:48:00.000-04:00My daughter is giving a speech in English today,th...My daughter is giving a speech in English today,the topic- "The best gift I ever received." Her best gift? Our divorce. She is grateful we cared about her enough to split up and help the situation. She knows what it was like before and she likes the after a ton better.<br />I have re-married and have another child as well. We couldnt be a happier family.<br />It's sad Liz had such a bad time, but it's not all bad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-54778809318661481922009-04-22T14:48:00.000-04:002009-04-22T14:48:00.000-04:00Powerful post.
Thanks for sharing that with us!Powerful post. <br /><br />Thanks for sharing that with us!E @ Scottsvillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08327141366023344413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-72440093831312292532009-04-22T01:22:00.000-04:002009-04-22T01:22:00.000-04:00It always saddens me to hear of people getting div...It always saddens me to hear of people getting divorced, especially when children are involved. I believe when two parents have done all that they can (and I mean everything that they can) and still can not make the marriage work, that then, and only then, should they decide to divorce. I then believe that once the decision to <A HREF="http://www.stopfightingoverthekids.com/" REL="nofollow"> divorce </A> is made, that both parents make sure to put their children first. . make them feel special, don't fight in front of them... in fact Mike Mastracci<br />has a lot of great tips and tools that parents can use to help their children through a divorce in his latest book "STOP Fighting Over The Kids."Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05957358850375701366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-21167775393826836162009-04-21T18:44:00.000-04:002009-04-21T18:44:00.000-04:00Lizz, thanks for sharing your story! It is very f...Lizz, thanks for sharing your story! It is very frustrating from a bystanders point of view also when a person says it won't effect the kids in a bad way. I just want to scream "YES IT DOES!!!" Thanks for giving voice to alot of children!A Stone Gathererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03763530057889661436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-30275715282832225982009-04-21T17:29:00.000-04:002009-04-21T17:29:00.000-04:00OH SUE!THIS BREAKS MY HEART.THIS IS VERY WELL WRIT...OH SUE!THIS BREAKS MY HEART.THIS IS VERY WELL WRITTEN! HAVE A GREAT EVENING! BLESSINGS, FAYEFayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03471636086263348016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-25250518118989203902009-04-21T16:30:00.000-04:002009-04-21T16:30:00.000-04:00((((((((((((((Lizz)))))))))))))))))))) How very br...((((((((((((((Lizz)))))))))))))))))))) How very brave of you to share with us such an honest and heart-rending perspective! God bless your courage. I can see Him using you mightily already! Thank you. :)Heather Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11377396008136738093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-71043695980922728032009-04-21T14:51:00.000-04:002009-04-21T14:51:00.000-04:00I'm a child of divorce and your words felt like mi...I'm a child of divorce and your words felt like mine. I so didn't want that for our son. But, I did find myself going in that direction. <br />My relationship with the Heavenly Father has helped my husband and I come together, forgive and respect each other.<br />Our son actually feels like he's the freak because he has the same set of parents - married to each other.<br />I told him that he should be proud to be a freak. <br />Thank you so much for sharing your insight. I wish others could see this.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07595549057172510815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-59128143905350928562009-04-21T14:27:00.000-04:002009-04-21T14:27:00.000-04:00I can't even begin to tell you that I understand w...I can't even begin to tell you that I understand what you're going through. I do have to tell you that you are one remarkable young woman. I would also like to encourage you to pray about putting all of these thoughts into a form of a book because I honestly believe that you can help countless other children by your candid honesty.Fitter After 50https://www.blogger.com/profile/12218341638563250124noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-31005088476765975192009-04-21T11:35:00.000-04:002009-04-21T11:35:00.000-04:00Great reminder that when we think we are the only ...Great reminder that when we think we are the only ones affected by our decisions we really are not.<br />Blessings,<br />LindaLindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13083269902415533758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-70832616743467441762009-04-21T09:31:00.000-04:002009-04-21T09:31:00.000-04:00Wow - she did a great job of putting those thought...Wow - she did a great job of putting those thoughts into words.Marihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06289456727508305342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-27819072993997060402009-04-21T08:51:00.000-04:002009-04-21T08:51:00.000-04:00Thanks for your openness and honesty...but then af...Thanks for your openness and honesty...but then after reading your blog I see you are so absolutely into honesty! LOL. <br />Love ya!<br />SuePraise and Coffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18273673325959351521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-19288141392952851702009-04-21T08:37:00.000-04:002009-04-21T08:37:00.000-04:00I agree and know all too well what it feels like t...I agree and know all too well what it feels like to be a child affected by divorce. My parents (who were pastors at the time) split during my senior year in high school. I was devastated and caught off guard. They had promised me that divorce was to be the final option. <br /><br />Their separation affected my spiritual growth, as well. For a season, I stepped away from what the Lord had planned for me and did my own thing. Graciously and faithfully, He brought me back to Himself and taught me this:<br /><br />He will never leave me nor forsake me. <br /><br />In the last 8 years since the divorce, I have battled with not being a part of a whole family and dealing with a step-parent whom I had no say in whether or not she could join my family. Getting married and having a baby of my own only compounded my sadness and understanding of what had happened all those years ago. But, because He is so good, God did not stop teaching me. He has also spoken, sweetly, to my spirit:<br /><br />Only I can complete you the way you need to be completed. <br /><br />At the end of the day, I know that God, my Father, took a horrible situation and turned it into an opportunity to show His love, grace and providence over me. <br /><br />And he also showed me this- that my parents were not born perfect, but they were covered in the blood of His son, Jesus. In all that they went through and all their pain, He held them just as close as He held me. <br /><br />Amen! What an AWESOME God we serve!Daily Offensive (baha!)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03047182991316003595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-69090476519092698002009-04-21T08:25:00.000-04:002009-04-21T08:25:00.000-04:00Wow! Very well written. I have so many girls in my...Wow! Very well written. I have so many girls in my HS and MS youth groups that have divorced parents and I can tell at different times that they are hurting. It is so hard to get them to trust, open up, and talk it out. It breaks my heart.Zaankalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15656363440368599835noreply@blogger.com