tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post1202556133911269336..comments2023-05-17T11:12:09.399-04:00Comments on Praise and Coffee: Sometimes the Past Haunts UsPraise and Coffeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18273673325959351521noreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-57805442151647526752010-08-29T23:15:58.965-04:002010-08-29T23:15:58.965-04:00Great post! We are just beginning that attachment ...Great post! We are just beginning that attachment journey. We just brought our little girl home from China yesterday, and we are so looking forward to the day when we see her have a strong bond and attachment to us!<br />I have enjoyed following your adoption story!Joanna Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06236286591668595359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-31586941642253329302009-07-11T09:31:34.433-04:002009-07-11T09:31:34.433-04:00This is a priceless explanation of what so many li...This is a priceless explanation of what so many little adopted children go through, especially from China.<br /><br />I have heard of this type of incident over and over from mom's of adopted children.<br /><br />Attachment can be developed in the brain at any time. Get the book by Daniel Siegel, "Parenting from the Inside Out"; in this book he explains the brain stage development and how to nurture this area to grow.<br /><br />My favorite part of understanding the brain is to see that God created us with the ability to nurture a child's brain at any age...even after adulthood. She needs all the nurturing that would have been giving to a newborn to 2 year old in order to have those areas of her brain sculpted. <br /><br />Think of it this way. We all have two "moms" our birth mom that give us nature part of our brain (genetics and in womb experiences), but the adopted mother is the nurture mom. You are a brain sculptor for your little treasure and you have a powerful role in helping her to develop to be the person she will end up becoming. You really do change, effect, sculpt her brain!<br /><br />You can give her all she is missing in past attachment.healingsoulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01199588032041866826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-65596471761978973982008-02-03T12:38:00.000-05:002008-02-03T12:38:00.000-05:00I've read all your posts about Lauren. Loving the ...I've read all your posts about Lauren. Loving the orphans is very important to me and I enjoy hearing about people who are doing it. I can't wait to see what God has planned for my family, concerning orphans.Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12124663602522143973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-19804711098686810702007-12-10T22:40:00.000-05:002007-12-10T22:40:00.000-05:00I'm so glad God blessed you with Lauren and her wi...I'm so glad God blessed you with Lauren and her with a faith-filled family like yours. That story brought tears to my eyes - it's hard when we don't know the hurts our children suffered before they were ours. Thankfully God does and He can heal them.<BR/><BR/>And yeah, I have stuff in my own past that tends to rear its ugly head now and then...again, thank you for a wonderful post.<BR/><BR/>You are such an amazing woman!Nikkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06740849420898692738noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-25865295749270955812007-12-07T13:10:00.000-05:002007-12-07T13:10:00.000-05:00Flea, I didn't realize Beth talked about adoption....Flea, I didn't realize Beth talked about adoption...which week was that? I did the study a few years back.Praise and Coffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18273673325959351521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-84982737580150386572007-12-07T08:34:00.000-05:002007-12-07T08:34:00.000-05:00Like everyone else, I can't get over the way this ...Like everyone else, I can't get over the way this just tugs at the depth of my heart. Beth Moore, in Living Beyond Yourself, talks to adoptees in one of her sessions (I'm doing the study online). I was a child of divorce, so she spoke loudly to me, about rejection and loss. To be an orphan is such a great rejection and loss. To be adopted, to be found, is tremendous. And so difficult to receive. Kelly understands, I'm sure. Lauren is blessed beyond measure, and I know that you and your family will not let her forget that.Fleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03412755038083750088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-44778068941121566652007-12-07T06:02:00.000-05:002007-12-07T06:02:00.000-05:00What a window into the little child 's heart. May ...What a window into the little child 's heart. May the lord heal your little baby. She is Jesus ' little lamb.<BR/><BR/>I 've had to struggle with the past, names, street, songs many such things filled me with fear. The Lord has given me victory over them.Amritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04887884977787790642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-12493977768455940032007-12-07T00:28:00.000-05:002007-12-07T00:28:00.000-05:00This post deeply touched my adoptive mama's heart....This post deeply touched my adoptive mama's heart. Our oldest is just gaining enough awareness now to begin to realize the impact that drug addiction had (and has) on her birth family. She sometimes makes comments that tell me she, like most adoptees, will need to work through some grief and loss issues as she gains a sense of the identity God has predestined for her. It's so very comforting though to know that He will walk her through those moments of sorrow and loss, just as He will for your precious Lauren.<BR/>Blessings,<BR/>~Toni~Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10318409820949377086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-27316182960111114242007-12-06T17:51:00.000-05:002007-12-06T17:51:00.000-05:00Connie,Thank you so much for the encouraging words...Connie,<BR/>Thank you so much for the encouraging words! I pray that your weekend will be fruitful!!<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>SuePraise and Coffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18273673325959351521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-35438624672036087292007-12-06T17:48:00.000-05:002007-12-06T17:48:00.000-05:00Oh Sue, that was the best blog I ever read...what ...Oh Sue, that was the best blog I ever read...what a story (that should be your Christmas letter this year!). My tears are all over the keyboard and I can't get them to stop! If you haven't written the book about your adoption story, that needs to be the first chapter. I'm in the middle of writing "six" book proposals and I'm going away this weekend to sequester myself, but I will carry your story in my heart. Love it (you are a phenomenal writer!). If I were a liteary agent, I would be passing your proposal all over the place! God bless you and your AMAZING story! And God bless your precious Lauren (I always wanted a girl and so I'm adopting Lauren in my prayers!)--okay?<BR/><BR/>HUGS!Connie Pombohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11897266570990786617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-39481796708424978192007-12-06T15:56:00.000-05:002007-12-06T15:56:00.000-05:00I cried at this post because I have a niece that w...I cried at this post because I have a niece that was adopted from China 6 years ago.<BR/><BR/>God has chosen you to be her parents and has placed her in your care - He will guide you in her healing process! How wonderful for your open heart to adopt - and she is such a beautiful girl!Momma Roarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16585669348993487403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-10698607899683718352007-12-06T14:52:00.000-05:002007-12-06T14:52:00.000-05:00I got all choked up reading this post. I agree wit...I got all choked up reading this post. I agree with you that God will use this pain she experienced in her life to help others one day.<BR/>What a good mommie you are.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16054187209428838640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-38803140363593757042007-12-06T08:31:00.000-05:002007-12-06T08:31:00.000-05:00Thanks North Carolina Gran'ma and everyone else wh...Thanks North Carolina Gran'ma and everyone else who added a link!!!Praise and Coffeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18273673325959351521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-80706268405683815892007-12-06T07:22:00.000-05:002007-12-06T07:22:00.000-05:00Thank you for sharing...very touching. I think we...Thank you for sharing...very touching. I think we all share in having moments when we might remember something in our past that was hurtful to us, however small and insignificant it might have been...but we still remember.<BR/><BR/>I just found your blog. I am adding it on to my blog!LOVE, MERCY AND GRACE...GOD'S GRACEhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02655178690132641309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-31118540890814565252007-12-05T22:59:00.000-05:002007-12-05T22:59:00.000-05:00That was a truly beautiful post. I know God can h...That was a truly beautiful post. I know God can heal those memories and replace them with new ones. And you are certainly His tool in the process.Alanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10226805581685877036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-16095848290456081292007-12-05T22:32:00.000-05:002007-12-05T22:32:00.000-05:00Hey Sue! Pop by my blog when you get a chance...Yo...Hey Sue! <BR/><BR/>Pop by my blog when you get a chance...You made my CWO post this week...:))<BR/><BR/>LisaLisa @ The Preacher's Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14448791069728897001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-7205857740315664022007-12-05T21:50:00.000-05:002007-12-05T21:50:00.000-05:00Bless your little girl's heart. It WAS a pretty da...Bless your little girl's heart. It WAS a pretty dark picture of the little girl. I pray God will totally heal her. I enjoyed your sweet post.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11414636204646241763noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-40890248976368098432007-12-05T21:21:00.000-05:002007-12-05T21:21:00.000-05:00Poor poor baby...one can only imagine what she has...Poor poor baby...one can only imagine what she has seen with her tender little eyes.<BR/><BR/>What a blessing she is to your family, and that your family is to her.<BR/><BR/>MelissaMelissa in Mel's Worldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13638983411456998183noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-19547993599713541492007-12-05T20:52:00.000-05:002007-12-05T20:52:00.000-05:00This broke my heart.... I see this pain in my litt...This broke my heart.... I see this pain in my little ones at times. Healing will come. Will pray for your sweet daughter to know God's peace and have the security her heart and mind long for.<BR/>The picture touched me.... It is so beautiful... <BR/>Thank you for the reminder that we are forgiven and to not walk in condemnation! Oh, how the accuser of the brethren is good at what he does.<BR/>Thank You Jesus that he is the defeated one and You are VICTORIOUS!Jewels of My Hearthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12955029706756769653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-13212184434918706782007-12-05T19:42:00.000-05:002007-12-05T19:42:00.000-05:00That was beautiful, Sue. I can't imagine what she ...That was beautiful, Sue. I can't imagine what she must feel like. Thanks for writing about it. I want to know the truth about all this stuff so that i can know what we're dealing with when baby Beth FINALLY joins us....:-)<BR/><BR/>Your sweet little girl, how much you must just want to hold her and assure her you're not going anywhere. But you are so right....only God can truly take away our pain.Middle-Aged Moihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05687022843803093290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-38170409695751110602007-12-05T17:04:00.000-05:002007-12-05T17:04:00.000-05:00Oh, what a touching story, thanks for sharing this...Oh, what a touching story, thanks for sharing this, and using it to remind us of God's faithful love for us.<BR/><BR/>Give that precious daughter of yours a big hug for all of us...<BR/><BR/>Blessings to you!<BR/><BR/>SusanSusanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15495342741364402414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-42834833490762021592007-12-05T15:11:00.000-05:002007-12-05T15:11:00.000-05:00Beautiful post, Sue. I know you are just what your...Beautiful post, Sue. I know you are just what your little girl needs to heal. She may never forget, but she CAN be made whole again.Dionnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15887793549770593022noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-35996399120261459182007-12-05T15:00:00.000-05:002007-12-05T15:00:00.000-05:00Bless that little girl's heart. May God use the w...Bless that little girl's heart. May God use the way she processes things...the obvious deep emotional capabilities that have been carved into her heart...to bring emotional healing to others. <BR/><BR/>May she be able to just look at someone and feel what they are feeling...and speak God's Truth and Life into that place.<BR/><BR/>The enemy intended to strike her down in fear and rejection. But she WILL rise up, armed with the type of anointing that only comes from having "been there", and break Fear and Rejection to pieces.<BR/><BR/>And may God give you wisdom in raising and loving that little Warrior-in-training.Christinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15200547170096475624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-66305952296664676112007-12-05T13:17:00.001-05:002007-12-05T13:17:00.001-05:00This just breaks my heart. I am so grateful for pe...This just breaks my heart. I am so grateful for people like you that God has called to adopt these precious children. I so wish that my husband and I could adopt. We can't because of his past in his teenage years, he got into trouble and its on his record. We have filled for his civilian rights back and plan to seek a pardon...if it is the will of God He will bring this to pass.<BR/><BR/>I will be praying for you sweet little girl. {{{hugs}}}Jenileighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00500285462109917784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1636139298576673779.post-44791281817005641682007-12-05T13:17:00.000-05:002007-12-05T13:17:00.000-05:00What an amazing post! WOW~ yes, I do understand pa...What an amazing post! WOW~ yes, I do understand past pain and how I feel when it comes to surface. I love that we Have the Power of Christ to sustain us and pull us through. I will pray for your little princess~ I have a heart for little ones from China~ God is greater than all our needs...He will hold you and your family!<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing so deep!Sassyfrazzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12707060900652371222noreply@blogger.com